Lessons As We Grow

I Think I Need to Teach Quiet Time

When is the last time your kid had to just sit still without a phone, tablet, t.v, or an adult engaging him or her?

I took them to one of the city parks near me on Saturday to get some fresh air and do some jogging. I’m trying to run outside more often rather than on the treadmill, I think it’s a much better workout. They have electric scooters they like to ride, but I also want them to exercise so I intentionally didn’t charge them before hand, I figured I could do about 1-2 miles by myself while they rode around before the scooters died, then they could jog/walk with me the last couple of miles.

Right on time, the scooters gave out. They did about a quarter of a mile before the crying and whining began, I wasn’t going to let them ruin my work out yet again, so I sat them in the middle of the park (the paved path around it is just a little bigger than a football field and goes in a circle) under some nice shady pine trees, gave them the water and told them not to move from this spot. To just sit and relax since they were so tired and they better not move because someone might run away with them. Basically scaring the crap out of them not to move. I could see them at all times where they sat and there was only 1 other family there, the park I might add is away from the road mostly hidden by trees, so I wasn’t to worried about it. I just wanted them to sit still and stop whining so I could get the last of my jogging in.

As I ran my laps, I watched them and realized that I can’t remember the last time they just sat without something keeping their mind going. In fact, besides bedtime, they have NEVER just sat and talked to each other or be alone with themselves and they are nearly 8 years old. This was a mind blowing realization because it was a normal thing for us to do when we were kids. Sit under a shady tree and talk or play; lay in the grass and look up at the clouds and ponder life. They are not learning how to be comfortable with themselves, with their minds. This wasn’t something that ever had to be a lesson for kids, it was something we did because there was nothing else to do.

As I finished up, they joined me for my last lap and they started asking me questions about the world and talking about more relevant things instead of going on and on and on about Minecraft and YouTube characters. It was wonderful seeing them express interest in the real world.

Going forward, looks like we need to add yoga and meditation to the list of things to do. I wish I had listened to the recommendations do keep electronics away from kids for as long as possible. I am going to start having quiet time with them twice a week to begin, I think it’s important they become comfortable with their own minds and silence. I will need to start with short periods and work my way to 30 minutes, they are not going to like it at first. Their brains are over stimulated and with hyperactivity a factor, it’s going to be a challenge.

Challenge accepted!

Let’s see where this goes, I will keep you posted.

Salute!

Lessons As We Grow

White Board Assignments-Writing lessons

I have noticed that writing is my kids weakest area, so while distance learning we started a journal where they copy what I have on the white board. The questions I ask and have them answer vary, because part of this is to get them talking about feelings and thoughts, but they always include a tongue twister because it’s fun and helps with pronunciation. Copying this stuff may seem simple. But it is an excruciating emotional hour long challenging my love & patience. That is how much Robo D hates it. I have found this is his biggest trigger for meltdowns. Copying ANYTHING from a white board. The next would be talking about emotions and his own thoughts. When I combine all of those things, it takes at least 2 hours to get through a journal entry. Then after, I tell him how great a job he did for finishing and that he is getting better or his hand writing is getting better. Something positive in hopes that the next time WILL be better.

Ninja D doesn’t mind but he speeds thru and makes mistakes a lot. But he loves talking about everything, sometimes it takes him a while to get his thoughts out properly, but it doesn’t bother him unless you cut him off or try to speak for him.

This is part of my journey in trying to help my kids handle their super powers better. #reading #learning #writing