Lessons As We Grow

6 Things I Want My Children to Learn

I wrote the below letter to my kids several years ago and put it in their memory box for them to read when they are older. I was looking back on things I have written and found this, I wanted to share because this website is just another step I have taken to try and stay on track to meet the lessons below.

To My Beloved Children,

Every day I make a wish for you to live and grow to be healthy, strong, happy, smart, and successful.  I also make a wish for us as you parents to have the same so that we can be better to help you find your happiness and achieve your goals.

As you grown into adults, I hope that I can teach each of you the six lessons that I feel are most important to your happiness and wellbeing.

1. Be Healthy:  I love fast food, pizza, cookies, and everything else that is so good but so freaking bad for a body as much as everyone else (maybe a little bit more) but teach yourself to eat in moderation. I promise there is not going to be a shortage in cookies anytime soon and all this yummy stuff will be available though out your life, or something even better will take its place.  This is the only body you will ever have and you will need it for the next 95 years.  Staying active, exercising, and having a good diet will also help your mind stay sharp and keep you motivated to achieve your dreams.

2. Be Strong: Life is going to throw you a lot of curve balls.  Things are going to happen that you didn’t expect and the things that you expected to happen will never take place.  Sometimes it will be for the better and other times you will feel deep disappointment.  It’s okay to be sad, disappointed, angry, and confused these are all emotions that make us human.  The important thing that I want you to remember it to work through it.  Don’t get stuck in a pit of despair.  Life is going to be a very long series of trial and errors and most people only achieve a handful of successes.  Pick apart the experience.  If there was a mistake made, learn from it and try something else to get to where you want to be.  If you lose a person you loved for any reason be it a romantic interest, friendship that fell apart, or someone passes away, try to focus on the love and happy memories you shared and be thankful for the time you had with them.  Nothing is forever and everything will change at some point.  Take the good of every experience and keep it in your heart, but remember the bad ones to so you don’t make the same mistake twice.

3. Be Happy:  There is a saying “Do what you love and love what you do”.  Unfortunately a lot of people never really figure out what they love doing and settle for something that they are content with always feeling like there is something missing from their life.  I pray that your father and I have the ability to expose you to all the different activities that spark your interest and help your curiosity about the world around you grow.  I want you to always try new things (that you know for sure will not result in only harm to yourself such as drugs), never shy away or be afraid when an opportunity arises.  I want you to know what makes you happy and what does not.  I want you to live “doing what you love and loving what you do”.

4. Be Smart: When I say to be smart, I don’t mean you have to win several rounds of Jeopardy.  Although it is very important to have a good education and to get as much from school as possible, being smart goes beyond the classroom.  Being smart is learning how to manage yourself and your emotions. It’s making mistakes and learning to do better. Be aware of what is happening in the world around you, from your neighborhood, to our federal government, to other countries. When you are young you will not realize just how much your life can be affected by what is happening at the White House or in Saudi Arabia, but it can and most likely will be. Going back to knowing what makes you happy will work with your awareness of the people and the world around you.  When you see that other people’s agendas may take away something that makes you happy you can try and find a solution to stop it. Or, at the very least prepare for it.  Being smart is using a compilation of all of your experiences up to this point and using them to keep moving forward in a way that is positive for your life.  Never stop asking questions, never stop learning.

5. Be Successful: Success is in the eye of the beholder.  No one can tell you what true success is, it’s something that you feel within yourself, within your own heart.  Your parents, your sibling, your best friend, a stranger at Wal-Mart, society, can give you their own opinions of what it means to be successful but it really is just one of those things that varies from person to person.  In my opinion, being successful is living by the first four things listed.  Being Healthy, Strong, Happy, and Smart because it’s in these things that you will discover love.  Love for Life, Love for people, and you will Love Yourself.  Finding your passions and people to help fuel them is in my opinion as successful as you can get.

6. You Are Loved: This is something more for you to know than to learn. As cliché as you may think it sounds, from the day we found out I was pregnant, you were loved.  Since that day our love for you has only gotten stronger and stronger.  There is nothing that you can do, no mistake you can make, that will ever change that.  There will be a lot of good times, but there will also be times when we don’t see eye to eye and there will be times when we fight or argue, that’s all part of human relationships.  You need to know that no matter what happens as you grow into an adult and even once you become an adult, that there are two people in this world who love you more than anyone else possibly can.  You need to know that you can come to us for anything at any point in your life because there is nothing you can say or do that is going to change the way we feel for you.  It is so important to me that you know that we love you, you will never know just how much until you have your own children, but I assure you that either one of us would gladly sacrifice anything if it means you will have a better life.  I can only pray that there is not a day that goes by that you ever think that no one loves you, because that will never be the truth.

I look forward to the many adventures we are going to have as a family and to watch the two of you grow.

I love you always and forever,

Mommy

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“I’m Givin’ Her All She’s Got, Captain!”

One of the many one liners that came from Star Trek. I feel like I’m Captain Kirk and my will power is Scotty from the original Star Trek series. I’m requesting warp speed away from being blown up by Klingons and my Scotty is just like “She can’t take no more, I’m Giving her all She’s Got Captain!”

I am one of those over the top happy people at the office that come in with a sing song “Good Morning Everyone!” everyday, but especially on Mondays. I don’t always feel like being that way, but I choose to be that way. There are some days I force myself to be that way because I know eventually it will be my truth. If I went in with a “leave me alone” or “fuck off” face, or if I complained about being low on energy or tired, then that would be my truth. For the whole day. Then probably the next day. Then all of the days that follow. That’s not the life I want. I want to be happy and I want the people around me to be happy. And if me being happy makes them unhappy, well they can fuck off.

That was me. Now I try to do the same at my “new home office” aka: the kitchen table. Being happy with twin 8 year old boys who struggle with school are ADHD and on the Autism Spectrum, and complete projects is much much much more of a challenge than anything my job can throw at me. My husband works full time and covers Fridays so I can go to my actual office and take a break, I mean, work.

This new normal has made me really work to be happy. I have had to learn how to control my anger, frustrations, and disappointments in a whole new way. In some cases just completely remove emotion when certain situations happen. I have to just apply the solution over and over and over until it takes root, almost in a robotic way. And I have to be ok with it. Because that is what my family needs to be successful.

One of my boys, Ninja D, is on the autism spectrum. Among several things, he has sensitivity issues with some clothes. But its only while he is focused on it. Socks and shoes are his latest reason for dramatic episodes. There is a lot of crying and tantrums and refusing to wear them, but it’s kind of a necessity in life so I make him wear them anyway and tell him that it’s something he is going to have to learn to live with. It’s the same with normal shorts or jeans. The thing is, once you get him to wear the clothes and then make him move onto the next thing like brushing teeth, eating breakfast, talking about minecraft, he forgets that he has this “issue” and it’s no longer a big deal. Sometimes he will remember later in the day and start again, but I move his focus to something else and it’s forgotten again.

The dramatic episodes over the simplest of things were making me so pissed off. They still make my husband pissed off, we are both getting better at handling situations, I just deal with it more often. That’s an example of what I mean by having to remove emotions from situations. I can’t be pissed off all the time for stupid shit that can’t be helped. His brain operates differently. But at the same time he is a kid. He is a human. He still try’s to get away with whatever he wants. It’s a very tiresome line to walk. And my other boy, he’s not causing many challenges at the moment, but he has had his time in the spot light.

Then there is work. I love work. It’s where I use to feel the most accomplished. I have had to shelf my feelings about work as well. I love working. But because I have to balance family and career more than ever now, I still get projects done, but not as well or efficiently as I know I could if I wasn’t sitting at my kitchen table being interrupted every 5-10 minutes. I have altered my daily schedule slightly, so I start later but work later into the evening in order to do better. Once the boys are done with school, it isn’t so bad. And it could just be in my head, I’m pretty hard on myself, but because I feel that I’m not doing as well as I should be doing with my projects, I feel like a failure. I can’t allow myself to feel like a failure. Because then tomorrow I’m going to feel even worse and then the day after and so forth. I will fall into a very deep hole that is very hard to get out of. I don’t want that for myself again. So, I shelf my feelings about work and complete what I can and hope that when I do return full time to the office that it was enough. Then I can take my emotions off the shelf and start feeling good and proud, and accomplished again. I can start taking steps forward and advancing.

Last night when I was taking a shower, I was thinking about personal shields. I was thinking about how I have to program and keep updating the software of my personal shield. I program it to keep other peoples problems and negative emotions from penetrating my spirit, but still be able to listen to their situations and help if able. My shield allows for positive, fun and inspiration to come threw though. Being near the people I care for and love the most, the battles are frequent and long and there is a constant barrage of torpedo’s., sometimes they learn how to hack the system, in either scenario I need “red alerts” to go off to put emergency shields up. When I feel that surge of anger or when I need to force my mouth to stay shut because I’m about to make someone feel really bad, which puts gas to the fire, I know they have broken thru and I need to think quick to get ahold of myself.

That’s when I call my Mr. Scott to get the shields back up on the double and warp speed out of the situation. Hopefully in the time that I’m having this internal episode of Star Trek, I’m not getting blasted by torpedo’s. Usually Scotty just in the nick of time gets my shields back up and I can be calm about what ever drama is happening at the moment and get through it in one piece. Rarely do I get to warp speed out until I have disarmed the Borgs or the Klingons.

We have love. At the end of the day, these are Lessons as We Grow and I know we will be better for them. But damn, its really really difficult right now.

I hope all of you other Captains out there stay Happy, Healthy, Smart, Strong, and Successful!

LIVE LONG AND PROSPER
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Trying to Make it Perfect

For the last few weekends the weather has been horrible. This past weekend we had a tropical storm passing by. We have resorted to chanting ancient magic to try and make the sun come out. It goes like this:

Rain, Rain GO AWAY

Come again some other day

Mommy and Daddy need the boys to get outside and play!

I try and make our moments perfect, or course. This is the only moment just like this that I will ever have. How did I make a rainy weekend in a covid world perfect you ask? I did all the normal things in life and recognized, it’s not forever.

I cleaned the house, exercised for a while, took a nice long shower, caught up on work projects, finished reading one of my books, celebrated the Miami Dolphins winning, drank wine and played games with the boys on the Wii.

Yes, I said Wii.

They try to get me to play minecraft on the tablets. But I don’t get it. Give me a Wii mote or Dance Revolution dance pad and I’m good to go. I did introduce them to Resident Evil……they weren’t ready for it. I paid the sleepless consequences for that one.

Yes overall, we try to have fun no matter what. There were even a few moments where I actually felt bored…..it’s a rare feeling for me, it was nice in a boring kind of way.

In a few weeks we are going to venture to St. Augustine, FL and I can hardly wait. It’s going to be a little bit of a pain in the butt, because we take a lot of precautions against COVID. But I need this vacation to happen. I bought a fun scavenger hunt secret mission book to do as a family. It takes you to different places of interest (mostly free ones) and tells some history about while you pretend to be a secret agent. I look forward to sharing our St. Augustine adventure with y’all!

Anyone have any suggestions on “things we should do” while there? I welcome and would love any ideas you guys might have!

Until next time,

Stay Happy, Healthy, Smart, Strong, and Successful!

Cheers!

This turned into more of a jog than a walk 🙂
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Cocoons of 2020

What to say that hasn’t already been said?

This year has been something special.

This year has been transforming.

This year deserves a special name. Like “Year of Butterflies” or “Year of the Moth”. Maybe “The Butterfly Effect”. “Reflection of Human Nature” , “#NOWWHAT?” “#OMGSTOP” , “Year of WTF!!?!?”

I like “Cocoons of 2020” . Because I feel we have all transformed this year into someone or in some cases “something” else.

The majority of us have been cocooned up in our homes for at least 3 months of this year, many of us (like myself) have been inside for almost 8 months of this year. Sure I escape every Friday to go to the office, but mostly I have been home with the kids. Working and Schooling.

I am very fortunate that my work allows me to be home and still be productive (usually after the kids are finished with school or asleep) and my employer is understanding enough to allow me to do it. Being fortunate however does not mean I am without stress, it means that I have chosen, worked hard, and sacrificed to have positive circumstances around me up to this point. I am still with stress because I need to continue to work hard in order to maintain and grow in this environment; while being even more involved with my children’s education and helping them to find ways to grow and evolve in a positive way. I have ALWAYS been involved with their education and well being, but now that we are all home together, it’s more intense.

After having several anxiety attacks brought on by stressing about my kids doing their school work, constantly getting up when they should be working, fighting with one another, feeding them, making them clean their messes, and then deadlines to meet for work, my own health, and on and on on, I reached a point that I have to let go of the “worry” stop trying to control everything, accept that it’s a flexible schedule and just go with the flow. I bought a robovac to help clean the floors (best investment ever!) because one of my kids leaves crumbs everywhere. I don’t know how, but he does. I have had to learn patience on a whole new level as well as a deeper understanding of my kids personal challenges.

And you know what? I’m happy for it. I’m happy for 2020 even though it spoiled all of my travel plans and gave me several anxiety attacks. We have became closer as a family unit and the love in this house is even stronger than before. I think we have all become more comfortable with ourselves as individuals as well. This experience has helped all of us see the reflection in the mirror in a new way.

Yes, we all have definitely been transforming while in our cocoon. There have been “highs” and “Lows”. There has been crying, screaming, laughing, and smiling from all of us and they have learned some new words that cannot be used in school. We aren’t perfect but I think we are getting better and no matter how challenging or angry the day is, we always end it with goodnight hugs and kisses with the promise that tomorrow will be better.

I hope that when the time comes for you to emerge from your cocoon that you come out even more beautiful, strong, and amazing than when you went in. If you have already flown back out into the world, I hope you are doing well and staying safe. For those who have had a difficult time with transformation, remember that the only thing that is consistent is change. Everyone and everything changes in life, how you do it is up to you.

These circumstances will change to. The world will go back to what it was, hopefully better. America will prosper and get back on it’s feet no matter who is elected because that’s what Americans do. Kids will grow up, Parents will grow old. The sun will shine and the moon will glow. The world will turn and take us for a spin, some people lose while others win. I think what a person should ask his/her self is, What do I want my heart be filled with as the world changes? Then take action to make it happen.

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Zarbee’s Naturals-Children’s Sleep

A Product Review based on my own experiences

As a mom of (2) boys loaded with energy and armed with ADHD, there is no such thing as “winding” down for the night. The only way my boys are quite, is if they are being hypnotized by the tv or tablets; which of course is unacceptable at night because once they are off they are still charged more than ever.

It wasn’t so bad before COVID because they would go to school then after school was a health and fitness place where they did a lot of running and exercises. By the time I picked them up after work and brought them home, homework, dinner, they were tired. Sometimes they would have a hard time falling asleep, but it wasn’t so bad the I needed to seek help.

In March, about 1 week into the “new normal” COVID world, is when we started having problems getting to sleep every.single.night! I didn’t automatically think sleep aids, I started making them exercise following along to YOU TUBE workout videos for kids, running on the treadmill, locking them outside in the backyard….did I say locking, I meant encouraging them to play. It helped some, but it still wasn’t enough. They were still getting out of bed every hour until midnight-1:00 am. You can imagine how tired I was as I still had to wake up and work from home and make them get up and deal with their bad attitudes because they were tired, do school work with them, feed them, and try and keep the house clean enough that it wasn’t inviting roaches to visit. Oh yeah, and not loose my mind in the process. Am I painting a familiar picture here?

When they are sick with a bad cough or runny nose, I give them the Zarbee’s Cough syrup with melatonin, it knocks them out fast and helps clear up the nose and throat. I have used it for years, luckily they don’t need it much, I am blessed with pretty healthy kiddos. That being said, at this point I got to wondering what other melatonin products were out there. I have come to find out there is quite a few, being that Zarbee’s have already proven effective and safe to this point I decided to try there Children’s Sleep vitamins.

As with everything, there are a lot of different reviews. Some people loved it and other hated it. I fall into the category of love. The recommend serving for their age is 2 yummy gummy vitamins, for us two is too much! They went to sleep really fast, but they would wake up in the middle of the night super thirsty. I tried it out and even I would wake up thirsty, which is very uncommon for me unless I have had to much grown up juice that night. I cut them back to just 1 yummy gummy melatonin vitamin and we have a wonderful nights rest.

It’s now September, we are still home living the “new normal”. We all exercise, now that school is back unfortunately I don’t get what I need in that area, but that’s a different story. They still run and are locked, I mean encouraged to play outside as much as possible. They are limited to only 1-2 hours of video/games a day. All of those things help, but the fact is they can outlast the energizer rabbit. On school nights, taking our “night time vitamins” has become part of the routine just before story time. Once the story is over they are more than ready for bedtime. On the weekends, I usually let them stay up really late and watch family movies or we play the Wii dance revolution or mario cart. Yes. I said Wii as in Nintendo Wii. That’s the last game console I have purchased.

I purchase this on Amazon, I haven’t seen it at any local stores like Walmart or Target. If your child has a hard time falling a sleep at night and you want to try a natural effective sleep aid, I highly suggest this one. Like mine, the recommended dosage might be to much which works out better because the bottle will last longer.

I hope this helps parents who are looking for natural safe sleep aids for their little ones.

I wasn’t paid or given free product to do this review. These are my own honest opinions and real results from our family. I just wanted to share our experience.

Wishing you a Happy, Healthy, Smart, Strong, and Successful Day!

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Running Thru 2020

It has definitely been a year to reflect and reinvent. Well, for most. For me, it’s just another year full of challenges. Helping my boys who have more learning challenges than most kids their age in the general population; every year is a year for me to acquire a new level of patience, understanding, and to continuously try to think outside the box to find solutions that will help them but also to find balance between “Career/Work Time”, “Family Time”, “Husband Time, Troubleshoot problems at School time”, and most importantly “Me Time”.

Successful people often say: “You need to prioritize. You can do everything, you just can’t do everything at once.” Well, all of those things I have listed are top priorities and I really have no choice but to do everything at once. What am I saying?, there is always a choice. I choose to put energy into all of those categories because if I don’t now, I’m going to be to far behind later. I may not be getting as far as I would like, but being able to move an inch is better than not moving at all.

This year has actually been less stressful than most. We as a family are in a better place emotionally, we all get along better. That in itself is a big relief and accomplishment that allows me to be able to balance better. Because I have to work from home, I transferred to a different department that allows me to be more flexible with my daily schedule, thus enabling me to help the kids with school (cry. sob. drink.) and for me to get on a better exercise routine.

Exercise is Essential. If I don’t run or at the very least walk daily, I feel absolutely miserable. Running has been a positive attitude life saver for me and has probably saved my kids from a Mommy Monster on a few occasions. Not to say that I haven’t lost my shit a few times this year, but running has alleviated and dissolved some of the chaos. I am getting a little pissed off that I haven’t lost any weight though. I have ran about 200 miles this year and cut out fast food but have only lost a few pounds. Another thing I have had to learn to be “ok” with to be happy. I feel better however. That’s the important part.

I have joined several running groups on Facebook and follow many runners/walkers on Instagram some of whom I chat with. Since I have started the blog site and joined runners on social media, I have come to believe that runners are the happiest most positive people on this planet. Seriously, they are so encouraging, supportive, adventurous, and for the most part, SUPER HAPPY people. I absolutely love it. The days that I feel drained and worn down, all I have to do is scroll through my social media pages for 5 minutes, it’s enough to make me say “Fine. I will get off my ass and give it a go”. 4-5 miles later, drenched in sweat, I’m feeling re-energized and happy I did it.

I’ve also taken a like to virtual runs. I don’t really care for the ones where I just get a medal. I usually join the ones where I get a tank top or t-shirt instead. the medals are beautiful, but they just end up in a box. My kids also like to do the virtual runs, but honestly they would rather have YouTube Minecraft Video time as a reward. Whatever gets them moving.

Getting into a running routine has been the biggest benefit for me so far in 2020, I am going to keep running thru 2020 and into 2021 with the goal of completing at least one half marathon next year.

We have each other. And we are making the best of a “lock down” situation. 2020 is only 365 days. It won’t last forever, as with everything in life.

Embrace the good and take note of the bad or Embrace the bad and criticize the good. I choose the to Embrace the Good.

Just some fun
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Getting My Kids to Exercise

Like the rest of y’all, our house is trying to get along and make the best of the over abundance of family time we have had the last few months. In between the murder hornets, COVID-19, hurricanes, riots, and every else that happens, we get out to nature or a park to get some vitamin D via sunshine. But we are in the house a lot. My kitchen table is my office and my kids school desk, I set up my mobile gym right next to me so I can stop and exercise for a few minutes or do some stretches. My gym is a jump rope, (2) 10lb weights, exercise ball, and a yoga mat. After i serve dinner I run on my treadmill, which has been one of my best purchases ever!!!

The problem is my kids are getting lazy. Well, lazy until I make them stop watching Netflix or Minecraft videos. Then all of the pent up energy comes out and usually turns into them trying to kill each other, then my blood pressure goes up and de-escalating becomes tricky at this point. I know I should not have been letting them watch so much, but I still have to work and if they aren’t watching something they are very literally making me crazy because being Mom and outstanding employee takes 2 different mind sets and skill sets. Trying to do both simultaneously for 8-10 hours a day has been a headache to say the very least.

So as a solution I tried having them do exercise videos on YouTube, which they enjoy and there is a lot of cool videos for kid work outs. But after a few weeks they started getting tired with it. So I tried to get them to do at least a mile on the treadmill, and that was a battle because they got bored after a quarter mile and start wining. Then I came up with, “so you want to watch Minecraft videos, ok. But you are going to watch it while walking on the treadmill.”

It has been a beautiful compromise. They walk 1.5-2 miles before they realize how far they went. No more fighting to get them to move and they go to sleep easier too. It has been a WIN WIN. Now they ask me if they can walk /run on the treadmill during the week because that’s the only way they get YouTube time now.

I noticed their moods have improved since we started this compromise also. 🥳

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I Think I Need to Teach Quiet Time

When is the last time your kid had to just sit still without a phone, tablet, t.v, or an adult engaging him or her?

I took them to one of the city parks near me on Saturday to get some fresh air and do some jogging. I’m trying to run outside more often rather than on the treadmill, I think it’s a much better workout. They have electric scooters they like to ride, but I also want them to exercise so I intentionally didn’t charge them before hand, I figured I could do about 1-2 miles by myself while they rode around before the scooters died, then they could jog/walk with me the last couple of miles.

Right on time, the scooters gave out. They did about a quarter of a mile before the crying and whining began, I wasn’t going to let them ruin my work out yet again, so I sat them in the middle of the park (the paved path around it is just a little bigger than a football field and goes in a circle) under some nice shady pine trees, gave them the water and told them not to move from this spot. To just sit and relax since they were so tired and they better not move because someone might run away with them. Basically scaring the crap out of them not to move. I could see them at all times where they sat and there was only 1 other family there, the park I might add is away from the road mostly hidden by trees, so I wasn’t to worried about it. I just wanted them to sit still and stop whining so I could get the last of my jogging in.

As I ran my laps, I watched them and realized that I can’t remember the last time they just sat without something keeping their mind going. In fact, besides bedtime, they have NEVER just sat and talked to each other or be alone with themselves and they are nearly 8 years old. This was a mind blowing realization because it was a normal thing for us to do when we were kids. Sit under a shady tree and talk or play; lay in the grass and look up at the clouds and ponder life. They are not learning how to be comfortable with themselves, with their minds. This wasn’t something that ever had to be a lesson for kids, it was something we did because there was nothing else to do.

As I finished up, they joined me for my last lap and they started asking me questions about the world and talking about more relevant things instead of going on and on and on about Minecraft and YouTube characters. It was wonderful seeing them express interest in the real world.

Going forward, looks like we need to add yoga and meditation to the list of things to do. I wish I had listened to the recommendations do keep electronics away from kids for as long as possible. I am going to start having quiet time with them twice a week to begin, I think it’s important they become comfortable with their own minds and silence. I will need to start with short periods and work my way to 30 minutes, they are not going to like it at first. Their brains are over stimulated and with hyperactivity a factor, it’s going to be a challenge.

Challenge accepted!

Let’s see where this goes, I will keep you posted.

Salute!

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Day 1-It’s Time

Better habits. Habits that will lead me to my goals.

That’s the idea right?

I love to write. I have always wanted to be successful at it, but have never seemed to muster up the determination to do it. I guess that would mean that I didn’t want it bad enough or it wasn’t the right time. Either way time to make that change and make this happen for myself.

I have just begun reading “Everybody Writes” by Ann Handley and so far it’s had some really good advice and valid points. She talks about things that should be common sense stuff, but for reason didn’t become common sense until I read it. If that makes sense.

She talks about like any habit, you have to do it everyday. Changing doesn’t come naturally, so you need to schedule time to at least write 30 minutes a day to develop the skill set. Just like running or exercising, you have to force yourself to keep the schedule, otherwise it will never happen. Which is also something I am trying to get better at, hence the title Reading, RUNNING, and Adventures. 🙂

So, here I am. Day 1. Actually it’s 10:30pm, does that make it night 1? Maybe we just go by calendar dates. Anyway,

Day 1. June 19th 2020 10:30pm

I should write everyday……………..

What to write about?

Tick Tock Tick Tock………WAIT!

Clocks don’t make noise anymore, some people will have no idea what that means. They will think I’m talking about an app or something completely irrelevant.

Maybe I should describe how clocks had hands and the second hand made a tick sound as it went around the clock.

What do you mean “what did the first hand do?’

My tea is gone and clock is pointing to bed time.

You know what, maybe you should just google the anatomy of a clock. You may find it interesting.

Good Night/Good Morning/Good Afternoon

Have a Fantastic Time!

Lessons As We Grow

White Board Assignments-Writing lessons

I have noticed that writing is my kids weakest area, so while distance learning we started a journal where they copy what I have on the white board. The questions I ask and have them answer vary, because part of this is to get them talking about feelings and thoughts, but they always include a tongue twister because it’s fun and helps with pronunciation. Copying this stuff may seem simple. But it is an excruciating emotional hour long challenging my love & patience. That is how much Robo D hates it. I have found this is his biggest trigger for meltdowns. Copying ANYTHING from a white board. The next would be talking about emotions and his own thoughts. When I combine all of those things, it takes at least 2 hours to get through a journal entry. Then after, I tell him how great a job he did for finishing and that he is getting better or his hand writing is getting better. Something positive in hopes that the next time WILL be better.

Ninja D doesn’t mind but he speeds thru and makes mistakes a lot. But he loves talking about everything, sometimes it takes him a while to get his thoughts out properly, but it doesn’t bother him unless you cut him off or try to speak for him.

This is part of my journey in trying to help my kids handle their super powers better. #reading #learning #writing